I dislike mother's day

now just let me say I dont hate mothers. nor do I hate Sundays. Nor do I hate moms that have a special day. yes hate is a strong word. I have spent the laying low. I really didnt even want to go out of the house because it all irritates me. I have never been one to get into the commercialism of holidays. lets be honest mothers has become a lot about some cooperate ceo making money. To be honest i like my mom. I like the vast majority of moms I know and its important to spend time with them. There are just somethings though that really bother me (besides commercialism. And I am really not talking about me. If you havent heard one of my famous speeches where I say I am not talking about anyone specifically rather in general feel free to check the blog archives. OK so back to things I dislike. I dislike the we define mother in such traditional terms. What makes a mom anyways? Is it merely the woman that gave birth to us? It bugs be that there a lot of women (and you can put who ever you think I am talking bout right) seem to think they have a biological and sociocultural right to be celebrated today. ok or well yesterday since its now midnight. All this leaves me with a big fat REALLY????!!! There are women who tie up beat up and abandon their children and you think you have a right to be upset because you dont get a card, flowers, or a present. yeah ok. Perhaps what dislike even more is the heartbreak. Again this isnt an issue bout my son or my 4 children I have raised that is a whole other conversation that we just dont need to have right now because i could keep people reading for weeks. but anywho..it is my belief that no matter if your child arrives in this world and lives a long life or passes away before life can begin you have a right to be a mom. It is those moms who have suffered that simply do not get celebrated despite that they have loved just as much. There are women everyday crying fighting struggling and spending thousands of dollars to be a mom and their heart is broken. where is there special day? Then there are the unspoken champions. mom's of the heart. Foster moms, adoptive moms, sisters, aunts, nieces, female role models many of whom do not get recognized on mothers day even when they are WAY more deserving then many biological moms. I guess i wish that we took time to celebrate the women in ourlives that make things better. not just today and not just with a card but everyday through our actions. what makes a mom to me isnt necessarily the woman who carried us rather the woman or women who have carried us in their heart. To all those women who have been through loss, remain hopeful, or have stepped up to the plate when another woman cant You are my heroines. thank you.